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[tram mechanic]

TRUE LOVE IS THE DEVIL'S CROWBAR

[shoemaniii]

35 "ish"? hmmmmmmmmmmm

you should go for it, short term. have some fun, get to know her grandkids.
bobp

[Kicking Horse]

shoemaniii, on Dec 4 2007, 02:02 PM, said:

35 "ish"? hmmmmmmmmmmm

you should go for it, short term. have some fun, get to know her grandkids.
bobp

No kids yet..... And I plan on keeping it that way for a while.

[RibStaThiok]

ANYTHING RELATED to love is a test. better get it right the first time.

[yardsale]

And just remember if you dont get it right you can always drink, but you should probably just drink anyway cause sooner or later thats what it comes to!

[Kicking Horse]

RibStaThio, on Dec 4 2007, 08:50 PM, said:

ANYTHING RELATED to love is a test. better get it right the first time.

You got that right.

[Callao]

There are many woman in the world--and you only get one.
Choose the right one the first time.
Never count on a second time.

[Emax]

Enough of this "get it right the first time " baloney. Seldom is anything "right" the first time. You get things right by realizing when you're wrong.
As a man who has been happily married for over thirty years - and married only once - I feel I can speak for the benefit of a "trial period"... which is what I meant by "road test".
Roxy and I were pretty sure that we "loved" each other. We chose to spend two years prior to marriage finding out if we could live with each other.

There were many other women before I met my wife - all of whom I remember well... some with fondness, some with a wisp of pain. But among them, I can think of none that would have worked as lifemates. I wish them all well and hope that they found matches as suitable as the one I found.

"Choose the right one the first time"? Are you delusional? Utah, where the average gestation period is seven months, is chock full of folks who chose the right one the first time... then the second... then the third. Mistaking lust for love is only one possible error in judgment. Far more important is compatibility - and one does not discover that all at once "the first time".

"The one match that is right for you"? The idea that you cannot turn back if needed? Recognizing the finding of a mate as some kind of warped epiphany? These notions are absurd.

[Callao]

Yeah, yeah, I've heard this all before. I'm not talking about looking around. I'm talking about commitment. Marriage? That's a commitment. When you commit to someone for life, that is when you do it right the first time. If you're not ready, don't commit! Just wait. This, I believe, is what Emax would call a trial period or road test--although for me, that entails a different set of rules.
But when it comes time for commitment (which is a promise), you make your promise, and you keep your promise. And if that promise is for a lifetime, that leaves no time for a second try.

This post has been edited by Callao: 05 December 2007 - 02:10 PM

[Emax]

Callao, on Dec 5 2007, 03:09 PM, said:

Yeah, yeah, I've heard this all before. I'm not talking about looking around. I'm talking about commitment. Marriage? That's a commitment. When you commit to someone for life, that is when you do it right the first time. If you're not ready, don't commit! Just wait. This, I believe, is what Emax would call a trial period or road test--although for me, that entails a different set of rules.
But when it comes time for commitment (which is a promise), you make your promise, and you keep your promise. And if that promise is for a lifetime, that leaves no time for a second try.

I agree with you completely. Further, you are entitled to your own set of prenuptial rules.

As for "having heard it all before", you may expect to continue hearing it.

This post has been edited by Emax: 05 December 2007 - 03:03 PM

[Callao]

Emax, on Dec 5 2007, 04:01 PM, said:

As for "having heard it all before", you may expect to continue hearing it.

That's life. I can take it like a man.

[ski89]

Alot of interesting notions here. I had two relationships with partners older than I. One 15 years older and one 13 years older. Unless you are ahead in maturity or they are behind or the rest of the population disapeared, it may not work out. But it is better to have loved or lusted and lost than to have never loved or lusted at all.

Compatibility? What's that? 22 years of incompatibility. Opposites attract? What I lack she makes up for and what she lacks I make up for. Which brings up another notion not mentioned yet, respect...

I could go on all night but I have to work on my electrical dilema.

[Carl]

Hmm, some nonbelievers here.

First question; how well can she ski?


Go with your heart! Life's way too short not to.

I've been with the same lady since 1970 and we got married at the Justice of the Peace in Jackson, WY in April of '75. I wouldn't
trade her for anything on this Earth.

Carl

[LiftTech]

Carl, on Dec 5 2007, 07:15 PM, said:

Hmm, some nonbelievers here.

First question; how well can she ski?


Go with your heart! Life's way too short not to.

I've been with the same lady since 1970 and we got married at the Justice of the Peace in Jackson, WY in April of '75. I wouldn't
trade her for anything on this Earth.

Carl

22 bucks?"

[RibStaThiok]

Well Max, you bring up some good points there, I for one happen to believe that there is no such thing as a "Soul" mate or that we are "destined" to have that special someone we are supposed to marry, I believe life is all about choices, and we face the results of those choices be them good or bad, which is why I believe in getting it right the first time. You and your wife obviously got it right, thats my point.

As for our comments about the "gestation" rate in Utah? heh I'm not going to touch that, you have your strong opinions on that stuff, I have mine. I'll leave it at that.

[Emax]

RibStaThio, on Dec 5 2007, 09:28 PM, said:

Well Max, you bring up some good points there, I for one happen to believe that there is no such thing as a "Soul" mate or that we are "destined" to have that special someone we are supposed to marry, I believe life is all about choices, and we face the results of those choices be them good or bad, which is why I believe in getting it right the first time. You and your wife obviously got it right, thats my point.

As for our comments about the "gestation" rate in Utah? heh I'm not going to touch that, you have your strong opinions on that stuff, I have mine. I'll leave it at that.

Truce.

[Emax]

ski89, on Dec 5 2007, 05:05 PM, said:

Alot of interesting notions here. I had two relationships with partners older than I. One 15 years older and one 13 years older. Unless you are ahead in maturity or they are behind or the rest of the population disapeared, it may not work out. But it is better to have loved or lusted and lost than to have never loved or lusted at all.

Compatibility? What's that? 22 years of incompatibility. Opposites attract? What I lack she makes up for and what she lacks I make up for. Which brings up another notion not mentioned yet, respect...

I could go on all night but I have to work on my electrical dilema.

You have your terminology skewed - that's not an incompatible relationship, it's a complementary one... the very best kind.

My life is full of electrical dilemmas, but I go on anyway... some say to a fault.

This post has been edited by Emax: 06 December 2007 - 08:03 AM

[LiftTech]

Emax, on Dec 6 2007, 10:55 AM, said:

You have your terminology skewed - that's not an incompatible relationship, it's a complementary one... the very best kind.

My life is full of electrical dilemmas, but I go on anyway... some say to a fault.

Off topic, But, I’d say this time your wrong, Sorry, your electrical dilemmas are our accomplishments, Thank you.

[Emax]

LiftTech, on Dec 6 2007, 05:29 PM, said:

Off topic, But, I'd say this time your wrong, Sorry, your electrical dilemmas are our accomplishments, Thank you.

That's very kind of you. Thank you.

[RibStaThiok]

Do you still love your wife, Max?